I want a woman & can\\\'t find one!

I am a 30 y/o attractive black woman who is extremely BI-Curious.  I constantly think about being with a woman, I love watching lesbian porn, something abt pretty woman licking on each other OMG!!! I want to feel a woman's tongue going crazy on my clit.  I think abt it when I'm sexing my dude & I cum quicker.  I even think abt her riding my face.  I have tried to go thru craigslist ads & even going to gay bars, but there are so many butches.  I want an attractive woman to be friend with, hangout, shop etc, & share this experience with & eventually share my man (sexually)  How do I find a BI-sexual black woman in the midwest that is NOT a butch.  How do you even approach women. I have to get this out of my system.